Is such an interesting conversation starter, it’s what we all need to be seeing. Abuse isn’t or hasn’t ever been just about hitting.
The saying sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me has never been shown to be so wrong before.
It never ceases to amaze that it’s the simplest concepts that provoke such a big response. They seem to resonate with people and they believe they have something to add, a way to help. It doesn’t feel like a big commitment or an exposing thing to do, but by sharing a tweet that you’ve seen or even writing one yourself you could have just helped shine a light somewhere where there was only darkness before. Continue reading →
While at a conference talking about Mental Health and the affect that has on domestic violence one of the speakers told the room a story of a couple that on the outside looked to have the perfect relationship.
Everyone in their social circle would say how in love they looked, how wonderful that after all the years they’d been together that they still always held hands in public. What they didn’t know is that they held hands in public so the husband could control the words that came out of his wife’s mouth. Continue reading →
We talk a lot now about the victims and survivors of domestic abuse which is absolutely brilliant because the more we are talking about it the more we are giving victims and survivors the confidence to talk about their experiences.
It seems that there is very little information out there about perpetrators.
We have read a couple of things online recently here and here. Which got us to thinking about the perpetrators story; is there something there in them to make them behave in this way, is it naturally who they are, the way they were brought up, did something happen to them at home, at school, in life, were or weren’t they taught about healthy relationships? Continue reading →
There has been a flurry of news stories recently about a fictional character Helen, and her abusive husband Rob, who are involved in a long running story line in the Archers (a soap opera broadcast on radio 4).
Past victims/survivors are using it as a way to tell their story and encourage others to do the same. It may even plant the first seed of creating a plan to make a choice to leave safely.
It has got us thinking and talking about how dramatization can work to bring issues into the open making it easier for people to talk about and can make it more acceptable to discuss these issues as you are not talking about real people. Continue reading →
Here at FLAG DV we have been reflecting upon the fascinating documentary Behind Closed Doors shown on ITV on 14th February and shown again yesterday (available on ITV player).
The programme makers had unprecedented access to the Thames Valley Police Domestic Abuse Investigation Unit and the victims / survivors they work alongside. Filmed over a 12 month period, and starting from the moment a 999 call is received, the film followed three brave women, who shared their experiences to help the wider public gain an understanding of the issue of domestic abuse.
Personally, the documentary evoked in me a number of emotions, and I must admit many of them were negative. Continue reading →
Out of all the things that we have posted on Facebook this is one that has been viewed and shared the most. Perhaps, it has captured the mood of the moment. It certainly got us thinking about how often … Continue reading →
In our job we read a lot. We look at all the angles we soak up as much information as we can find. We want to help as many people as we can as much and as effectively as we can as quickly as possible.
We want to see positive change in the field. We are always looking for the best possible ideas and in doing so reading some of the most awful accounts of how some humans treat others. We also read some really positive and empowering stories too.
After reading all about the new black dot campaign that is all over social media, we in the office got to talking:
We wondered how effective it could be? Would the fact that the black dot campaign was so visible on social media make it a good or a bad thing for victims? What if I victim used the black dot but a person didn’t recognise the symbol? What if a perpetrator of abuse did recognise the symbol – could that create a high risk for a victim or could it be explained away “oh no I must have got pen on me”?
There are many ways that children can be affected by domestic abuse. How they react will differ completely from child to child even within the same family. Children living in homes where domestic abuse happens often experience more than you think.
There are many things that you can do if you suspect that someone you care about is suffering from domestic abuse.
Most of them very simple like just letting them know that you are there for them, often abuse sufferers feel lonely and isolated so knowing that you are there and that you care makes a big difference. Continue reading →