It’s all too obvious when you are being physically harmed but if you aren’t being hit how do you know if you are being abused? Especially as often in the beginning it is small changes in the behaviour of your partner that don’t seem so bad individually but they can soon add up.
Your abuser will use all sorts of tactics to gain control over you and make you feel like it is all your fault. Using phrases such as “I’m only doing this because I love you” or “I’m just looking out for you”.
They may make you feel pressured in to altering your behavior including how you dress or who you see. They may start asking you where you are spending your money or for passwords to your social media and email accounts.
If you don’t feel like you can say no to these requests and are frightened of your partner’s reaction or they make you feel guilty or ashamed about your choices you may be in an abusive relationship.
If you are unsure and would like to talk it over with somebody you can call the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247 which is available 24hours a day or look at their website alternatively if you are in the West Berkshire area you can contact West Berkshire Domestic Abuse Service on 0800 731 0055 they are available Monday to Saturday 10am – 4pm or look at their website.